Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Where are the best places to talk Second Life Sex? (mature-adult-NSFW-XXX)

This question has come up a number of times before, I know, and it has come up again, most recently in SLF, so I decided to post about it here, in gV and on SLU.

Here's my post on gV and SLU:

"Where are the best places (blogs, forums, websites, sims, etc.) to talk about sex in Second Life among adults with a frank and open discussion? Topics might include prim genitalia, etiquette, how-to for newbies, fetishes, paraphilias, NSFW & XXX content, sex sims, sex products, etc. And why? (Why is that the best place?) The question came up in SLF and I thought it might be interesting to get comments and referrals."

Here are the questions asked by Aleesha Snow that got the ball rolling this go round.

Aleesha Snow said...
"I'm looking into making a foray into the world of SL sex. Before I get involved, I have been noticing that there are so many options as far as body parts, HUDs, and many other things. Some things are stand alone, others need compatible items to work properly. It is all so confusing. I decided to search for information online. Unfortunately, after several hours, was unable to locate anything on the web that wasn't a number of years old and, apparently, no longer pertinent. I'm not sure I am in the right place to even ask this question. Can someone point me to a place where I can get up to date and accurate information on all of this?  Thank You  A~"

Aleesha Snow also said...
"Thanks Ariel, and thanks to all who replied. I really appreciate it. Reading all of your responses have helped but I think Ariel hit the nail on the head. There is just so much that it is hard to ask specific questions. The "genital Attachment" question was one for instance. I personally don't need one and sex for me is more cerebral than visual, yet I didn't know if guys would look at me as cheap or less desirable if I didn't have one. It is things like that. Its good to know that the older information can be relied upon today. I will look at it with a different eye. Guess I need to find my online mentor. Thank you all A~"


Links:
http://community.secondlife.com/t5/Lifestyles-and-Relationships/Finding-Current-Info-on-SL-Sex/td-p/1081169
http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/where-are-the-best-places-to-talk-second-life-sex-mature-nsfw.2546/
http://www.sluniverse.com/php/vb/general-sl-discussion/64052-where-best-places-talk-second.html
http://www.sluniverse.com/php/vb/lets-make-sexy-time/
http://whatleesaid.blogspot.com/2011/09/sex-questions-on-second-life-forums-slf.html
http://community.secondlife.com/t5/Lifestyles-and-Relationships/Where-do-YOU-think-the-best-place-to-talk-about-sex-in-Second/td-p/1086709

180 comments:

  1. I don't know why this just makes me LOL. I envision a discussion "Why will my 2004 talking vagina not communicate with his freenis 2011?" I can't even wait for the "Incompatible Genitals" thread. Or "Looking for a penis UPdate" thread. Penis patch...hmmm, no, that sounds like some place you might grow and harvest penis'. I officially need a nap.

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  2. @ Ima: Oh God, I hope so.

    /me claps her hands in anticipatory glee.

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  3. If I knew anything at all about digital danglers, I would start the "Incompatible Genitals" thread myself just for lulz.

    Wait, you were happy about the threads and not me taking a nap...right?

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  4. DEWIT!

    Oh, sorry, sometimes, after all these years, I channel a little Stephie.

    Yes, the threads, not the nap, but I do hope you enjoy your nap and dream of digital danglers.

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  5. I can't because I have only seen pictures of the danglers...my lack of experience/knowledge would not go undetected by the penis' collectors...What if they called me a troll??? OH NOES!

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  6. Send her to xcite ...boys and girls all work together . Plus they have a great support team.

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  7. Digital Danglers ? :|

    "Hey baby, how about my 1 in your 0 ? ( Hey .. how YOU doin' ?) "

    .... :S

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  8. @ Wil: Hahaha, I like when you talk binary ;)

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  9. @ Ima : Heh .... look at the results of my OS then :

    i386PC:~# man woman
    No entry for woman

    I think she doesn't have an 0 for his 1 ? :|

    Captcha : suppix

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  10. If gV was smart they would sieze this opportunity to get some new posters. If LL does not want this level of participation then there is a gap to be filled. Maybe gV doesn't realize it or, perhaps, not know 'how' to realize, but if conversation can flow between the two forum...everybody gets a win.

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  11. storm said...

    "...there is a gap to be filled. Maybe gV doesn't realize it or, perhaps, not know 'how' to realize, .... "

    Well shove it down to them," big boy ". I'm sure they'll happy to anticipate your very needs.

    Don't whine if they bobbitize you instead .. :P

    Captcha : dedlyg

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  12. @ Storm: I totally thought the same thing. gV is getting free advertising from my posts and links in SLF right now, but when people click, they will just see me and Clancy spitting at each other and some inane post from ew0K. gV *IS* its base membership and that includes the high-posting and vocal Clancy, Lias, Lane, tout and Wasted and their brand of forum whoring.

    I really thought gV would be a great venue for adult-themed SL conversations, which is why I opened so many threads of that nature there. It is a great platform, but it's just way too overrun with the other bullshit, of which I am a part, which is one of the reasons why I had to move "That's What She Said" and other content to my blogs.

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  13. I would *love* to see gV get a larger and more diverse base with more voices and styles. I love the software and I even like the moderation.

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  14. But I'm running out of goats and original responses to posts telling me to take Ativan and Prozac and seek professional mental health help.

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  15. I still want someone to find out and tell me the real Clancy story.

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  16. @ colleen: Does xcite have a website and a discussion area?

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  17. Lee said on SLF...

    "LOL. It's already happening. I've had three posts with helpful information on the SLU thread and mostly trolling on the gV thread. Hey, there's value in both depending on your perspective and predilections. ;)"

    http://community.secondlife.com/t5/Lifestyles-and-Relationships/Finding-Current-Info-on-SL-Sex/m-p/1086517#M6317

    Lee said on gV...

    "I would have liked for this to be an opportunity to drive some traffic this way (I linked the thread in SLF) and get a real discussion going on sex in Second Life, but we both know I'm the wrong poster to do it in this forum. C'est la vie. ;)"

    http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/where-are-the-best-places-to-talk-second-life-sex-mature-nsfw.2546/#post-115179

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  18. Check out Storm in that thread.

    http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/where-are-the-best-places-to-talk-second-life-sex-mature-nsfw.2546/

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  19. Being all serious and useful here :::sorry & I will stop soon::: For fetish I refer(red) people first and foremost to the BDSM Forum sim. It used to be easy to find in search but I have no idea now. It is the oldest BDSM community sim in SL and is very noob friendly. They have lots of talks, a huge library, social get togethers...lots of things for lots of people and lots of interests for people of all experience ranges. It isn't the cattle call pressure place most "sex" sims are in SL.

    You don't need a whole blog, sim, or even thread to discuss talking prim parts. "Don't" suffices!
    (Is it the talking prim parts the beget the scourge of SL, the talking prim baby bumps? Arrrrgh!)

    LOL and NO shit, captcha=kisseml
    (I had to ask last week what "captcha" is...)

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  20. @ L: NO, DON'T STOP!!!

    Useful is wanted and appreciated.

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  21. https://marketplace.secondlife.com/products/search?search[category_id]=&search[maturity_level]=GMA&search[keywords]=xcite

    http://www.getxcite.com/

    secondlife://Eventide%20East/147.226/106.271/39.3044

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  22. Clancy and Lias are "engaged in conversation." Maybe they'll work something out. ;)

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  23. LeeHere Absent said...

    I still want someone to find out and tell me the real Clancy story.


    I heard a rumor once that Clancy was thought to be nina or her X

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  24. @ colleen: I posted your info in the SLF thread, so Aleesha should get it and so might some other people with similar questions.

    http://community.secondlife.com/t5/Lifestyles-and-Relationships/Finding-Current-Info-on-SL-Sex/m-p/1086573#M6321

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  25. THIS !! Par....

    " I think it's the audience that failed, again! "

    Storm, 34 minutes ago

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  26. colleen said...

    "I heard a rumor once that Clancy was thought to be nina or her X."

    GET OUT!!! LOL! That's hilarious.

    No way. I'm not buyin' it. We can see Clancy actually *hurting* gV even now in the "sex" thread. I don't believe nina would do that. Besides, the constant "Ativan, Prozac, mental health professional, hooker, shower" broken record posts don't generate discussion on gV, which is what a forum admin's alt (common practice I'm told) are meant to do. And Clancy has posted as Clancy, Tarzan, Morgan and Interloper on at least five forums and for many years. That's a helluvalot of alting if it were one of the other forum regulars. Nah. I enjoyed it, but I don't buy it. Thanks for that, though, colleen.

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  27. I've been meaning to ask you, colleen, do you play golf?

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  28. RE: Clancy
    He's much too famous for a whole real story but, Thomas Leo Clancy Jr. was born in 1947 and is an American author. He is part owner of the Baltimore Orioles. Rather topical at the moment, a week after 9/11 Clancy stated the attack was due in large part to the left-wing politicians who gutted the CIA.

    Hope that helps!
    /me is just beneficent today

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  29. Oh, I also posted L's info in that same SLF thread.

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  30. LeeHere Absent said...

    I've been meaning to ask you, colleen, do you play golf?


    I have played , yes...I'm much better at tennis LOL

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  31. I just finished listening to gabryel.nyoki and now listening to AM Quar....both are fabulous SL/RL musicians and fun audiences too.

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  32. Ah. It was obviously your frequent use of the term "par" that led me to ask, that and my own hacking tendencies. I played 18 holes yesterday. And I have another round of glowball golf coming up soon. ;)

    (Stephie loves it when I play night-glowball golf. Bad things happen to me. lol)

    I'm not much of a tennis player. I have a deathgrip I can't seem to loosen, which makes my wrist hurt, and I'm too damn lazy to chase the court for balls since I have so little control. But I do like the game a lot...in theory and on TV. ;)

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  33. colleen said...

    "I just finished listening to gabryel.nyoki and now listening to AM Quar....both are fabulous SL/RL musicians and fun audiences too."

    Oh, cool. Thanks for the leads.

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  34. @ Lee .... it's been awhile since I chased a tennis ball but I'll never make the Open OL in either sport .... tennis requires an equally skilled partner lobbing back .... and :) big pockets so there is a ball or 2 in each and no pause in the game!

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  35. I betcha can't guess who told me that lil tidbit theory about Clancy =)

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  36. @ colleen:

    Ha! LOL! OMG, no, let me think...aaack! Tell me! LOL!

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  37. /me sighs
    If I had known you were going to paste up my post in the SLF I would have written it better.
    Maybe.
    Probably.
    meh...fuck it.

    Me nibbles another percocet and ceases to care or type or...

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  38. @Lee BTW you're killin me with ll the goats !! ROFL

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  39. I win! I win!

    OMG, that is PRICELESS, colleen.

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  40. colleen said...
    "@Lee BTW you're killin me with ll the goats !! ROFL"

    /me grins broadly and winks.

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  41. I hafta to tell you I was like .....you can't be serious.

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  42. @ L: Shup. You were being useful, so you got used. It all went to a good cause. ;)

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  43. @ colleen: OMG, colleen, considering the who and the how many of what you've been told, lordie, I can't imagine what you must have been thinking of the last six months or so. LOL. What a wild ride!

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  44. @Lee...
    I got...used.
    In a sex thread.

    /me perks up a bit

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  45. @Lee: Thank You, Mistress.
    /me kneels nicely waiting for more use-ful opportunities

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  46. Oh Jesus. Now I feel the pressure to think something up. I've always heard the sub had the real power and now I believe it might be true. ;)

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  47. @Lee, when I was invited there by Lias she said it was brand new and would be interesting and fun and contain *discussions* and good content a lot of it SL related....I wish to god I'd had a fuking clue. TBH I would never have joined .

    I should have known tho in my brief stop off in Zindra ....Lias and Gina made all of it unbearable at Blondins mtg's ... and people came out of the woodwork to tell me NOT to get involved in anything Lias was in ....I ....did not listen. Soooooo makes me not smart.

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  48. You're in 'good' company Lee. When Leia (I think it was Leia) knelt in front of Pep at an inworld gathering and called him Sir...he was rendered sputtering and speechless. Cross my heart and all. There were pictures at one time...

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  49. LeeHere Absent said...

    "Oh Jesus. Now I feel the pressure to think something up. I've always heard the sub had the real power and now I believe it might be true. ;)"

    'Domme' in my language equals stupid, y' know .. ^.^

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  50. L said...

    "There were pictures at one time..."

    DON'T TEASE ME!

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  51. @ Willem: I have heard that. From Caity on gV, if I'm not mistaken.

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  52. @LeeHere : She's not mistaken as you aren't .. :)

    Captcha : unall

    PS If a sub crosses her heart ... well.. X marks the spot.

    Shoot.

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  53. Caity said on gV:

    "Knowing how it makes me feel, reading that little shitforum run by Kermit-Raul and his Domme (yeah, do look up what the word domme means in Dutch language..hehe)..."

    http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/new-member-alert.746/page-16#post-27618

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  54. I have no idea what this means though. lol

    Caity said on gV (to Rotpaulette "tout" Carter)...

    "Als je het niet begrijpt, zoals gebruikelijk, kun je beter je domme snavel houden."

    http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/boswachter-redt-vissen.1548/#post-72793

    I suspect it is something unfriendly.

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  55. Lee said on gV...

    "I even looked up the Dutch "domme." Looks like it primarily means "stupid," and possibly, secondarily, "donkey," "cow," "silly goose," and other pejorative words.

    Looks like "stupid" covers it.

    Nice."

    http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/new-member-alert.746/page-16#post-27621

    Ishtara said on gV...

    "If it's the same as in German, it is also a female gender noun ("de domme", or "die Dumme" in German), which means as much as "the female idiot".

    ETA: On second thought, I think the Dutch version might be gender-neutral."

    http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/new-member-alert.746/page-17#post-27762

    See what I learn from reading forums?

    ;)

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  56. I just stole this from Bunnie for colleen.

    http://gotvirtual.net/community/attachments/tennis-volley-1-gif.5068/

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  57. Translation : If you do not comprehend, as usual, you'd be better off shutting your stupid beak.

    Lenghty method to say STFU, but there it is ... ;)

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  58. You seem to have some interesting opinions about BDSM, Willem.

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  59. Ok, ok .. Je bent geen / niet dom(ina) .. :)

    Zo goed ?

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  60. Willem Huisman said...

    "Translation : If you do not comprehend, as usual, you'd be better off shutting your stupid beak.

    Lenghty method to say STFU, but there it is ... ;)"

    AHHAHAHAHA! LOL! Awesome. Thanks for the translation, Willem.

    /me grins.

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  61. Don't make me break out the Babelfish, dude. We know it will only get ugly (since the online translations are iffy, at best.)

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  62. LeeHere Absent said...

    "You seem to have some interesting opinions about BDSM, Willem."

    I just have one : I won't love anybody 'till it hurts.

    Captcha : slessions

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  63. Ok...good, because, you know...I was going to say it is over...but if you are just being bossy and shi'...we're good.

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  64. Carole F. had the pictures, not me, so they might still be around. 99.99% of SR/LA photos are gone. But Carole won't release them w/o Pep's ok and the last I heard he didn't ok. But the event was witnessed by quite a few. :)

    Very early on Pep and I had a GDF schtick going on about me being his very bad sub. It was this huge back and forth story and totally funny (or at least I thought it was). I got lost going to get a VERY particular beer, he moved out (with our beloved goats) while I was gone, there was a yacht and murder and god knows what all else. It is a side of Pep a lot of people would never believe exists. I was pretty much a GDF noob at the time, too, another "unbelievable" for Pep-lore.

    However, when the kneeling was in "real" Second Life...heh heh...his reaction was quite funny. And for some reason I just wouldn't let up...

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  65. /me sets her sites on Carole and her Pep pic stash.

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  66. Aleesha has received the help she wanted and has "tapped out" of the thread.

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  67. I think I have the kneeling pic. It was on her pofile for months.

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  68. PS. I have off and on called Caity my Mistress, during IMs. That's all I will say. She can't deny it! (Well she can but...) No pics just transcripts...

    mwhahahaha!

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  69. Once again Ima doesn't know her ass from a hole in the ground. There was a kneeling picture on my profile. That pic won a photo contest in SL. It has nothing to do with Pep and he was not in it. To my knowledge the only photo is CF's. Oh, I forgot, Ima knows more about me and my stories than I do. Silly me. She must be right.

    Damned mosquitoes are in the tent again.

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  70. Btw, I find it more than just a bit odd and pathetic that Ima would have old copies of photos that were on my old profile. Not only has SR been out of SL for months but I don't think that picture had been on my profile in a long, long time. Yet she has it in a stash. How very Sus-like.

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  71. LeeHere Absent said...

    I just stole this from Bunnie for colleen.

    http://gotvirtual.net/community/attachments/tennis-volley-1-gif.5068/


    Woot!! how cool is that! thank you Lee =)

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  72. @Lee: It only shows male legs and feet, no way to tell if it is Pep.

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  73. @Ima: I have no idea what pictures were ever on YOUR profile. I think I saw your profile twice. Yet...you no only took but KEEP old photos from mine and apparently know how long each was up! LoL!

    Very, very, strange.

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  74. I want a subforum in SLF called "Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous."

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  75. LeeHere Absent said...

    'I keep pics too.'

    So which oinc ?

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  76. I don't care if that kneeling picture is shown. It was on public display for the contest and it was on public display on my profile. It isn't Pep. It was my second Master in SL which is no secret but as he is not known to anyone on the Blogorums there's no reason to name names.

    I wouldn't mind seeing the pic CF has either! (IF she has it...and that is a BIG if!)

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  77. Oh, I have quite a collection, Willem. ;)

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  78. I'm glad this girl from the OP got the answers or at least pointed in a general direction.

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  79. Originally the pic was sent to me along with a humorous comparison of her real life self...(I have not seen her RL pic) saying that if it (the outfit) translated, it would have looked like a roped Sumor wrestler...except not as pretty. Hahahah! I thought, at the time, that was hysterical and was going to blog it, but...time...didn't have enough.

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  80. LeeHere Absent said...

    "Oh, I have quite a collection, Willem. ;) "

    Oh ? Keeping them anywhere where I can cheggit ? ;o)

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  81. Send me pics and I will perv and post them.

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  82. @ Willem: Most are scattered about the internet on RLetc.com, SLUniverse, the Utherverse and even Photobucket.

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  83. Wil said: So which oinc ?

    LMMFAO!!!!

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  84. Ima said... "a roped Sumo wrestler..."

    Knots ! :|

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  85. Fair warning. I have an overwhelming amount of all nature of pics on the net.

    http://www.rletc.com/album.php?u=16
    http://www.sluniverse.com/php/vb/members/leehere/albums/
    http://www.utherverse.com/Net/profile/view_profile.aspx
    http://www.utherverse.com/net/userMedia/MIShowPics.aspx?MemberId=92367824&fdr=0&pg=1
    http://gotvirtual.net/community/useralbums/leehere-absent.118/list
    http://s602.photobucket.com/albums/tt104/MissLee_photos/

    Enjoy.

    Heh.

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  86. Pretty good "snapshot" of how Ima works here..."oh I kept a photo of I don't know what and I will take it out of context and claim it to be something which it may or may not be" and "I heard a story of a story which I thought I'd blog about and call it the truth..."

    Meh. No one explains Ima better than Ima herself with her actions. Well, glad I could help there for a sec, Lee, but I'm gonna depart before WH and Ima find another dying cancer patient to pester or something.

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  87. Told you to shoot .. ;P

    captcha : brain

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  88. Btw, "seicher rae" is the 4th highest search phrase leading to my blog, according to the blogger stats. Variations on my name are the 1st and 2nd and the 3rd is "creator skins utherverse."

    Forum Confidential and Pep's blog are far and away the top two referring websites to my blog.

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  89. At first I thought it was just a story, and then I shared the laugh with someone else, who also happened to have RL pics of Sumo Rae and confirmed that she was Sumohuge and had a face only slightly less attractive than that of a mud fence. Hahaha...wow...I really have not laughed as hard since...although those potty humor sites had some good stuff.

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  90. Why on gods green earth would SR be a search phrase here??? Oh well, whatever. (I use Pep's blog to springboard to other blogs, including yours...easier than a bookmark.)

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  91. @ L: Dunno. Prokofy Neva is also on that list, btw.

    I do the same re: springboards.

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  92. @ Ima: Come make yourself useful over here.

    http://whatleesaid.blogspot.com/

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  93. @ Ima : She's the one in the middle ?

    http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2008/10/07/article-1071029-02EA482D00000578-408_468x529.jpg

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  94. @ Willem: You do the same.

    http://whatleesaid.blogspot.com/

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  95. @Wil: Wow, she has lost weight! Awesome!

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  96. Don't make me come over there.

    *stern face*

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  97. :) I can't help over there, Lee. I don't know nothing bout' no digital genitals.

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  98. What the hell do you do all day then? ;)

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  99. LeeHere Absent said...

    " WILLEM!
    @ Willem: You do the same.

    http://whatleesaid.blogspot.com/"

    I can't make myself useful on there ? The only virual sex I can vouch for is that SL will screw anybody over in any area .... That don't count , does it ? :S

    captcha : rewowyed

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  100. What answer you'd expect ?

    " I'm cummin' ... !! " ? ;P

    captcha : viapples

    rofl

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  101. I wasn't exactly expecting it, but I'll take it. ;)

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  102. I work M-F 9-5 and on the weekends...well my SO came nicely equipped freenis and a supporting team ;) so...digital ding dings are just not interesting to me. Don't judge me :))))


    CAP: SPEAN ---Made me LOL

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  103. Viagra apple flavoured ? .. :)

    I'd take a bite but Steve Jobs might sue me. ;P

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  104. Oh, you will be judged alright. This is the internet.

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  105. You have issues well beyond fruit, Willem. ;p

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  106. No grapefruit with Viagra. Safety first.

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  107. See, Ima? You do have something helpful to contribute on the subject of sex.

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  108. Yes, I can warn against dong death. That is really uplifting...no pun intended. :))))

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  109. Yeah...may have some value for those who like to RP an erection that lasts for more than 4 hours. :)))



    CAP:tudic...hahahhahahahaha

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  110. I could stay up all night *ahem* .. but i'm like Jewish foreskin : I'm off.

    Goodnight both.

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  111. I just noticed you have not linked my blog. Wha? I was not even worthy of a break up text? Hmmmph...No Christmas card for you! :)))))

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  112. I was waiting for you to settle on a site. You're represented here (in 3 places):

    http://leeherevw.blogspot.com/2011/06/virtual-world-theme-sites-blogs-forums.html

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  113. :) I was just kidding about the Christmas card.

    What are those blue squiggly blocky things on the links contained in the hyperlinked site you posted?

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  114. Oh fug, do I need to fix that post too? Gargh. That happened on another one. Thanks for the heads up. I can't see it, so it helps to be told. I'll fix it.

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  115. Ishtara Rothschild said on SLF...

    "Actually, I think that is forum is a great place to talk about sex. It might seem counter-intuitive considering LL's PG rule and the relatively high level of moderation, but I've found that when it comes to adult topics, only posts with very explicit language are getting moderated. Which can be a boon rather than a bane, because it helps keep the discussion on a civilized level.
    We have discussed even the most controversial topics here in the past, such as age play, BDSM (including edgeplay), or zoophilia. This doesn't seem to be possible over at SLU, where people who disagree with the vocal majority (which is surprisingly conservative when it comes to sex; SLU is a place where gays and liberal atheists rage against aberrant forms of sexuality in a way that would make a Baptist preacher jealous) are met with vigorous personal attacks and the most hateful and rude language. That's exactly the kind of thing that gets deleted here, and this forum is a better place for it imho.
    At SLU, everything seems to be about moral outrage. A member of the in crowd starts a finger pointing thread (bruised skins and "Rape me" tattoos, OMG, how can LL allow this!) and everyone joins in the bashfest. That is not a discussion, it's a lynch mob in a feverish circle j***. Those who dare to disagree are torn to pieces and will be bullied in all future threads no matter what they post. I'd rather participate in a forum where I can speak my mind as long as I'm willing to self-censor a bit and use medical schoolbook terms or romanticized language rather than colloquialisms."

    http://community.secondlife.com/t5/Lifestyles-and-Relationships/Where-do-YOU-think-the-best-place-to-talk-about-sex-in-Second/td-p/1086709

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  116. I didn't feel comfortable *really* talking about sex on RLetc, I don't feel comfortable *really* talking about sex on SFL, but I did feel I was *really* able to post about sex on gV and in my own blog.

    My comfort on gV has changed though. Back when I started the "That's What She Said" thread on gV, I was not yet "that Lee" and did not attract the kind of attention I attract now.

    http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/thats-what-she-said.772/

    The blog works much better for me. I don't feel like I'm making people uncomfortable. I don't have to worry about forum moderation or nodes or section rules or trolls.

    I can just say what I want, how I want and those that are interested can read and comment and those that aren't don't have to step around it or in it.

    http://whatleesaid.blogspot.com/

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  117. I like your blog. Funny, entertaining content, wish I were blind pics, all kinds of good stuff. But, I miss having a forum to call home. I'm not comfortable at SLF, gV, never tried SLU. I wish SLUnleashed would have taken off, but I don't have time to dedicate to it. The domain is paid for as is the hosting...You should take it over, build it up.

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  118. Oy, don't tempt me. (I'm sooo easily tempted.) Who would do the tech?

    And thank you, Ima, I appreciate the compliment on the blog and your participation too.

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  119. Do the tech? What does that mean?

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  120. I'll grab some stuff Fuckwad said to me when a couple of us were tossing around the idea of a forum and he was advising me against it. 'Course, I could also direct you to nina's tech related posts on both gV and Xenforo and Wasted's on vbulletin and any number of things I learned from Humpty of RLetc. It's a big job running a forum and keeping it running smoothly.

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  121. I can do recruitment and mod and content stuff, but the tech is beyond my abilities and patience too.

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  122. People who commented in the "That's What She Said" thread on gV and made it fun were people like Caity, colleen, Liona Clio, Dale Innis, Derek, Dakota Cody, Pep, Don Mill, Ishtara, Han Held, Lexxi, Maryanne, Lum, Orfeu, Grady, Stephie, Storm, Venus, Kris (OFF) and Fuckwad.

    (I'm still being nostalgic, colleen. lol ;) )

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  123. These were Lain (is Bams) posts in the "That's What She Said" thread on gV:

    "I have no idea what's going on in this thread, but it was dominating the activity list so I felt compelled to be here. "

    http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/thats-what-she-said.772/page-4#post-24284

    "I'll tell you what's driving me nutz...... waiting to release those clips. I'm doing the "Eat My Shorts' bits when I have time. I have three done with a forth one in the white box and the hardest thing about it is waiting till I have the entire thing together before sticking it on the net.

    I like to share."

    http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/thats-what-she-said.772/page-4#post-24291

    "VLC plays everything. OH SNAP! :p"

    http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/thats-what-she-said.772/page-15#post-30495

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  124. I never had much activity so it was never much work. It is pHpBB hosted and very easy to set up and modify as you wish. Let me know if you want to give it a go. I can give you all the permissions you will need once you create an account. You can DEWIT :)

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  125. I was bummed to see Ishtara go, because she had a lot of interesting stuff to say about the deeper, darker or more unusual perspectives on sex.

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  126. It is all point and click technology. If you can set up 500 blogs and maintain them, one itty bitty forum will be cake. Mmmm. Cake. I want cake. I want a cupcake.

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  127. I have to get some shit done for an impending family visit and the new semester, but I may revisit this with you, Ima.

    It's generous of you to make the offer.

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  128. I don't often agree with what Ish has to say...but she is such an engaging writer that I love to read whatever she offers.

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  129. Yeah, I'm with you. I certainly don't see things *as* Ishtara does, but I do see them and I'm definitely interested in her perspective and expanding my own in the process of a conversation with someone so different from me who can articulate their thoughts so well.

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  130. You heard she took her own blog down, right? "Ishy's Rants"

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  131. Let me know, I would love to see it utilized. It has auto accept on sign ups, so no worrying about that. And, to entice you further, I promise I will clean up the spam should any occur :)))

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  132. Yeah, I was very bummed about that too. Did anyone find out why?

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  133. Why she dropped the blog? No, I haven't heard.

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  134. Here are the posted rules on my forum :)))) :

    If you choose to post personal information about yourself and you do not get the response you were hoping for...Please repeat to yourself 30 consecutive times-This is an entertainment forum, chances are I will be the butt of a joke at one time or another. I live among assholes in the real world, chances are they exist on the internet too and I can expect them to entertain themselves at my expense from time to time. I am strong. Hear me RAWR.

    I am a free thinker. I do not necessarily share the views and or opinions of those who post here. Save your guilt by association argument for your lawyer.

    Have Fun!

    See? Easy Peasy!

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  135. @Ima
    I have also argued that Lee should run a forum...( I am helpful like that)...I think her taking over your forum is a splendid idea.

    I am a fan of her Blogyrinth (thx pep)...but there is something a little more...um...interactive about a forum.

    (/me whispers to Ima.....tell her about smileys...she cant fucking resist smileys....that oughta do it.)

    :-)

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  136. orfeu said...

    @Ima

    (/me whispers to Ima.....tell her about smileys...she cant fucking resist smileys....that oughta do it.)

    :-)



    ROFL poor Lee ! It's true tho she does love smileys...

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  137. Put "Candy Tetris" in the arcade, you'll never get her out.

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  138. @Orfeu: Great idea!

    @Lee: You will have smileys! You can upload any you like, on a whim...Ha! Resistence is futile!

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  139. Hide your unmentionables. Jarvis is perving my blog.

    /me grins and waves.

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  140. I asked Ishy why she removed her blog. She said it was "taking too much time" and that she "feared that (she) would offend some people with (her) views which could easily have been misconstrued." Also, she did not want to turn into "a second Prokofy" and she felt blogging was "not very rewarding". She feels "better if (she) socially interact in forums or inworld."

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  141. The third-party special offers are pretty aggressive.

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  142. There are no games in the Arcade!

    Caaaaandy Teeeetris!


    LOL

    ;)

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  143. http://www.slunleashed.com/crimes-against-convention-leehere-absent-t24.html

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